My Shadow Selves by Karen Hayes

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How should I count them?

Which . . . or who . . . qualifies?

By duration, effect, by angst or by joys?

The permanent quirks? The Interim lies?

The girl, the ghoul, the crone, the child.

The mild one able to scold the wild?

Are they Jungian poses

Of ancient lore,

The dark ones, the bright ones,

The whole damn galore?

For me, they’re all real to greet when I rise

With hope that some, please, might make me wise.

I could get more serious,

but, oh, what’s the point.

Just face it old girl, they’re all out of joint.

Be gracious, be cheerful.

Spare others an earful.

They’ve got their own selves to compare and contrast.

Just share what you care to . . .

This poem’s over at last.

 

Karen Hayes writes dark 'n whimsical fiction and creative non-fiction. Karen wrote the essay Online Dating for Seniors and is currently working on her memoir, True Places. For more information visit: hayesforwords.com

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Grab a pen - here's a writing prompt!

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In order to your get creative aging juices flowing, I'm going to offer writing prompts from time to time. These are questions to get you thinking about yourself in different ways.  So, grab your writing tool of choice (laptop, pen, pencil, paper), find a comfortable spot to sit and put your critical voice on hold. In fact, tell your inner critic to leave the room. 

Honey, I'm Home . . . A Lot! By Debbie Leaman

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And, then, last summer, Howard retired.

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Initially, thinking about going from a busy medical practice to “retired,” I'd developed a sense of impending dread. Would I become useless, cranky and senile? Would my health deteriorate? Would I “fail retirement,” and become depressed with nothing to do, and have to go back to work? 

No— I’d prove my continued vitality.

Online Dating For Seniors by Karen Hayes

At age seventy, I signed up with a matchmaking website for seniors. If you haven’t tried online dating (and it was all new to me), the first hurdle for a woman ‘over a certain age’ is to get past the idea that meeting someone online is too much of a fringe thing, and that goes against everything our generation was warned about.          

But if you decide to give it a try, here are some things to consider. First, you’ll need a ‘handle’ for your profile. Remember the days of truckers on their CB radios using nicknames like GoodBuddy and RubberDuck? ’ Well, a dating site is like that. So how do you choose a name for yourself that gets attention without being . . . what?  . . . too coy, as in Needaknight?  Too suggestive, like Sweet&Low?  Too anything?  

Creative Aging Blog - a forum to share our stories!

Creative Aging Blog - a forum to share our stories!

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So why, at the age of 57 did I become a ski instructor?